Drew.Rub November 3rd 2011, 9:21 pm
There's also a bit of accountability, too. If I share with you things that I'm struggling with something, you might ask me later how I've been doing with that (as you should) and I might have to admit (again) that I've screwed up (again). Now that I think about it, this is pretty related to my first one.
I find that having an accountability group actually makes it easier to talk to them about my sins that I'm dealing with. This is because I know that they don't and won't judge me because in talking about it, I'm simply admitting that I'm still human, and althought I have accepted Christ as my savior, I will stumble. These men I keep myself accountable to remind me that Christ will always be along side me to forgive me, pick me up, and continue to walk with me. Plus, having this accountability group means that I'm more likely to run from sin and temptation. The guilt I would have in indulging in a sin, then having to face my accountability group and try to lie to them that I hadn't, would be too much to bear.
A third one could be exposure. This may not be a reason for not sharing, but maybe more of a benefit of not sharing. In some ways not knowing about all the sins my pastor struggles with helps me to hold him in higher regard. If I knew all his faults, I might not look up to him as much.
In this point, I think you're right, in that the exposure scares most people. However, I will disagree with not wanting to know my pastor's struggles. This goes back to my previous point. I'm not saying I want all the fine details of his sin. If I do put my pastor up on such a high pedestal (or look up to him with such high regard), I might start to overlook the fact that he's human, just like me. In my mind, it puts a seperation between him and I. If I need to talk to him, and don't think (or know) that he's dealt with a sin as well, then how could I talk to him? The only one who never sinned and stil knows what my sin is like is Christ Jesus. And I know I can talk to Him and He'll understand. But if I think my pastor (a human like me) hasn't dealt with sin (or a sin like my sin), why would I go to him to find a way to deal with it? (Hope that all made some sense.)
In dealing with my middle school kids at church, I'm fairly open about some of the sins I've struggled with. I haven't talked about all of them, but the ones that have come up in conversation we have discussed. No graphic details, but enough for them to realize that even though I'm a volunteer youth leader, I'm still a sinner. I'm a forgiven (reformed) sinner, but still a sinner, just like them. I want them to understand that no matter the sin, they can talk about it with us, because it's probably something we've gone through.