Mamby Pamby or Blunt
Firstly, this construct of Mamby Pamby versus Bluntness looks like a false dichotomy. Is it helpful to polarize your thinking in this way?
Secondly, the topic's title is leading, and your word choice indicates contempt for those who disagree with your desire to be blunt. If you've demonized an opposing opinion, and elevated your own; are you therefore only seeking confirmation of your own opinion?
You usage of the term Mamby Pamby makes me think of something Mr. Spock said in the most recent Star Trek movie: "Resorting to name-calling indicates you are defensive and therefore find my opinion valid." And I don't think you have to agree with or be comfortable with an opposing viewpoint, to secretly see some degree of validity, whether you admit it to yourself and others. Something to consider in the future, when you go this route during discourse with others.
You said you are glad to be a Christian. Are you proud to be a Christian? Think carefully about this. Are Christians supposed to be prideful in their spirituality (or humble, I ask in my own leading way?)?
You attribute Christianity directly to not having to deal with "Those types of problems." It may have been your own choice, in the name of Christ or in honor of him, to not do certain things in your life. But you give the impression this an automatic result of accepting Christ. It isn't automatic, though, is it? Some Christians have to work hard to cut certain things out of their lives, while others don't struggle with it as much. But then, non-Christians struggle in the same ways, too. Easier for some, tooth and nail for others.
Someone on a Christian forum elsewhere once said that Christianity is better thought of as a hospital, were people go to acknowledge they are sick. They're still sick, just as sick as those who haven't come to the hospital, and all they might get is the hope of some DIY home remedies to take the edge off of the symptoms, not the guarantee of such things and not the cure, within this lifetime. The sickness is only gone after we're dead, it's not cured in any of us while we're alive.
Also, you present the notion of Christianity and the Christian lifestyle as being easier than it is. Some Christians struggle with something, and the struggle doesn't end throughout their entire life. I could easily see people, Christians and non-Christians getting the wrong idea from how you present this notion of dealing with troubles within the faith; as if Christianity will provide some divine boost to get past personal hurdles. I've seen Christians lose their faith because they have been given false hope in this regard. If you bring new people in to the faith with this notion, then they are coming in with a very serious handicap to their faith. Some things can be left to God, but some things we have to take personal responsibility for. A person of faith who look to God too much for something they need to take personal responsibility for can be in danger of feeling abandoned by God, and lose faith. I don't advocate this thinking.
You say that several of your own group got mad about your declaration of superiority. Are there any other nuances to their perspective beyond that you should show sympathy?
I've talked at length with a friend and co-worker who recently became a pastor of his own church. We talked about Christians who come with this baggage: the notion that being Christian means they are better than others, and how this leads to an a perspective that hinders their ability to be effective as a Christian.
People here have so far been measured in their responses. Do you respect bluntness? I don't know a lot of people who delight in watch a fellow human indulge in presenting themselves as superior to others. I personally find it offputting. And my friend, the Pastor agreed with me that it doesn't reflect well on Christianity.
Why do you feel you have to be blunt? Why do you feel justified in acting like you are superior to other human beings?
I notice you present the truth as "blunt truth" but let me ask you, can you separate the truth and blunt truth, so that you can contemplate being truthful without the vulgarity of bluntness? As other posters here have alluded to, how about kindly spoken truth? Is that any less truthful that blunt truth?
Too often I see people latch on to the notion of blunt truth as an excuse to be discourteously truthful, rudely truthful. I am not accusing you specifically of this, but ask yourself if this is why you value blunt truth, and ignoring the possibility of removing the "blunt" part of it?
Also, if this is an issue of ego and superiority, ask yourself if your fellow Christians argued for more favorable speech and empathy out of concern for fellow humans who could be saved by the Christian message. Are they angry because you've alienated non-Christians and made their job on God and Christ's behalf to spread the message more difficult? What is more important, spreading the message or your need to use blunt truth?
Do you think it is harder work to set aside the desire to flaunt your feelings of superiority within the lifestyle of Christianity, in order to make a non-Christian feel loved rather than looked down on? Is it easier to give free rein to these feelings of superiority? Which pathway, then, requires a greater strength of character, a willingness to surrender the self to God's purpose? Who is taking the humble path, the mamby pambies, or the guy who wants to be bluntly truthful?
Is your superior demeanor justified? Are you alienating non-Christians and making it easy for them to close their ears to the message? And what is more important, your need to be right, or the immortal soul of other fellow humans that you can serve God by helping? Are you here to serve God, or to show non-Christians that being a Christian, joining up, is an opportunity for them to go around and act superior to non-Christians, as a way of enticing more followers to the faith?
One final thing. Your comment about how you are not going to sympathize with a persons pain because you don't approve of the way their life is going. If your not sympathetic or empathetic, then where is the love? It comes across that you don't want to put up with them bemoaning the problems they have, so why are you bothering? Couldn't you just goof around and say, "Then don't drink so much, next time, silly!" and share a laugh with them, without getting pretentious about God, Christ and a noble lifestyle? Do you think it helps you to be in the mind set, to say in your mind, "I don't approve of your lifestyle." Ask yourself if you put to much stock in your approval? Would it be better to make friends with them first and earn their concern for having your approval? I don't approve of that kind of mindset, and yet not one person on this forum, yourself included, should worry about my disapproval of all the things I've discussed above. Whose approval really matters? Yours, or...God's? It's between them and God, and maybe you can weigh in with your opinions when you earn their friendship and respect.
This feels like a missed opportunity.