Informal survey time!
Was just thinking about how content I am to be by myself most of the time, and how that results in me not inviting people over very often these days. Although I've recently had someone over on a weekly basis for lunch to help him work through some marital stuff and every three weeks my mentor comes over for our meeting. I used to host a monthly game night when I served in our college/20s ministry, but have done nothing like that in our home for about a year or more. I think in general, since social stuff usually empties rather than fills me, I'm inclined for it to be purposed around something... I don't know... intentional, in an obvious sense. (As opposed to recreation, which can have purpose and intention, but in less immediately obvious ways, if that makes sense.)
My wife says, after listening to some podcast that used him has an example for a personality type, that I'm like Mr. Darcy from Pride & Prejudice. We're both inclined to practical conversation topics, with less skill and certainly less patience for "small talk".
This played out right in front of me a day or so later when I had a guy over for a very intentional time of conversation purposed toward our mutual spiritual growth. The meat of our time was great. But I felt awkward on the bookends, welcoming him in and seeing him off at the end. Where little bits of chit-chat usually fall, I struggle.
Anyone here ever have anyone over to their home in the last year that wasn't family or a significant other? A friend for a movie night? Some buddies for a game night? A small group for a Bible study? What was the reason for the visit? How often would you estimate you have someone over in your home in order to spend time with them?
Was just thinking about how content I am to be by myself most of the time, and how that results in me not inviting people over very often these days. Although I've recently had someone over on a weekly basis for lunch to help him work through some marital stuff and every three weeks my mentor comes over for our meeting. I used to host a monthly game night when I served in our college/20s ministry, but have done nothing like that in our home for about a year or more. I think in general, since social stuff usually empties rather than fills me, I'm inclined for it to be purposed around something... I don't know... intentional, in an obvious sense. (As opposed to recreation, which can have purpose and intention, but in less immediately obvious ways, if that makes sense.)
My wife says, after listening to some podcast that used him has an example for a personality type, that I'm like Mr. Darcy from Pride & Prejudice. We're both inclined to practical conversation topics, with less skill and certainly less patience for "small talk".
This played out right in front of me a day or so later when I had a guy over for a very intentional time of conversation purposed toward our mutual spiritual growth. The meat of our time was great. But I felt awkward on the bookends, welcoming him in and seeing him off at the end. Where little bits of chit-chat usually fall, I struggle.
Anyone here ever have anyone over to their home in the last year that wasn't family or a significant other? A friend for a movie night? Some buddies for a game night? A small group for a Bible study? What was the reason for the visit? How often would you estimate you have someone over in your home in order to spend time with them?